Formerly a transgender person, Jareth Nebula wants to raise awareness and spread the word for those who feel so unique that they feel they’re from another planet. He now officially identifies as a genderless alien.
The 33 year old, who was born female, transitioned to male when they were 29 years old.
Now the receptionist feels they don’t feel tied to any particular gender, but doesn’t identify as a human either. Nebula thinks of themself as an alien with no gender, describing themself as “otherworldly”.
“After coming out as transgender and believing I had finally found myself, I realised I was wrong, they explained. “I wasn’t male or female, or even human. I don’t think or feel like humans. I can’t really explain it to others – I’m simply otherworldly. I didn’t feel comfortable as either gender or even anything in between. I know I’m stuck in a human form and that’s how I’m perceived by others – but to me, I’m an alien with no gender.”
Named Mr Elastic by their doctors, Jareth suffers from EDS and chronic pain.
“I get to a chiropractor once every two weeks and see a physical therapist once a week, as well as smoking medicinal marijuana for the pain – but there is currently no cure for EDS,” they said.
By their late 20s, Jareth decided to transition to male, and began hormone treatments right away, changing their sense of style to something more masculine and getting their breasts removed in surgery.
“I thought being a trans man would solve all of my issues and inner battles with finding out who I was, but I wasn’t as happy as I expected to be. I felt like I was trying to fit into someone else’s box. I didn’t want to be constrained – that’s when I discovered what agender was.”
Jareth considers themself to be neither male nor female and – although they are happy to be referred to as ‘he’ or ‘him’ – feels as if living as an alien would be more suited to how they felt on the inside.
It seems not everyone is supportive of Jareth’s latest transition. Their family understood and welcomed their transition from male to female, they were less supportive of them identifying as an alien.
“My family still see me as a trans man, because they don’t understand what agender or alien really means. I have online friends who support me, but offline is harder. Not everyone understands – but that’s okay. I don’t expect them to get it, I only want acceptance.”