Domestic abuse is no joke.
It can ruin someones life, male or female and the suffering the victim goes through is absolutely horrific.
A survivor has bravely spoken out about the eight steps which can lead domestic violence to escalate to murder. This is so scary.
Abbie Brydon, 30, was viciously beaten by her former boyfriend Scott Hughes at their Wythenshawe home in March 2018.
Hd her neighbours not heard her screams, Abbie believes she would have died from the attack.
Abbie was left with two ‘blow out’ fractured eye sockets and nasal fractures. Her family could hardly recognise her because of how swollen her face was.
Her abuser has been convicted of GBH with intent, and is currently serving 14 years behind bars.
Abbie desperately wants to help others going through domestic abuse as it’s a common thing occurring and many are silent about it.
She has described ‘The Homicide Timeline’ outlined by Dr Jane Monckton Smith as being ‘absolutely spot on’.
Dr Monckton Smith, from the University of Gloucestershire, took a look at 372 cases of domestic abuse killings and took part in interviews with both family members and public protection professionals.
From her extensive studying and research, criminology expert discovered a pattern of eight distinct steps. The first starts with the ‘pre-relationship history’.
It is so important that you should take notice if a partner has a criminal record or any ‘control, domestic abuse or stalking’ charges.
The next step is the ‘early relationship’ stage, where you see the relationship become intense with ‘early declarations of love, possessiveness and jealousy’.
The third step is the sign of ‘dominated by coercive control, usually with some of the high risk markers’.
The fourth step is described as ‘trigger/s’ which sees the abuser’s power being threatened by an event like illness or financial difficulties.
The fifth step is called ‘escalation’ where there is more frequent or severe control tactics. Things such as suicide threats, violent behaviour or stalking..
The sixth step is known as a‘change in thinking’ where they have ‘feelings of revenge, injustice or humiliation’.
The seventh step is the abuser in their ‘planning’ stage; this sees them ‘buying weapons’ and ‘seeking opportunities to get victim alone’.
The final step is homicide, which could involve ‘extreme violence, suicide, suspicious death, missing person, multiple victims’.
It’s hoped this timeline will help people recognise these eight stages. It could potentially save people lives.
Dr Monckton Smith, made the following statement:
“The domestic homicide timeline is a pioneering model which transforms the way we think about domestic homicide, coercive control and stalking and the risks in these situations. This is the first time these behaviours have been organised in this way.
Police have been incredibly receptive, and recognise the steps in cases they are working on, because it speaks to their experience and makes an order out of the chaos that is domestic abuse, coercive control and stalking.
This will fundamentally change the way we look at risk and has the potential to save lives, as intervention is possible at every single stage and victims can use this to understand their own position.”
Abbie strongly believes in the eight step pattern published in the Violence Against Women journal (VAW).
“I think you never assume it is going to happen to you but the similarities in the study and how the stages progress are absolutely spot on,
Going through it stage by stage I think would make a lot more people take it seriously. If it was more widely known to women I think it could save lives.
I never in a million years thought it was going to get that far but I think if people could see it in black and white it might make you realise; I need to get out, I’m in trouble. I think it is really important every women knows about it.”